Mom's Talk: When to Meet the Boyfriend's Children?

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I am in a fairly new dating relationship with a man who, due to medical reasons, is unable to drive. Has two children ages 9 and 11. His children live out of state but do visit occasionally, including spring break, and a month with him during the summer.

He asked me how I feel about meeting his children and I was unsure of how to answer him. I know one part of his concerns is that when his children visit they are limited on what they can do since he doesn't drive. I would be able to change that for them, and give them the freedom to enjoy different activities.

I realize that it is a huge step to get to know his kids. I love kids, and wouldn't have any problem getting to know them. BUT, is it fair to them to introduce them to the "girlfriend" early in a relationship? I am not sure how I feel in this relationship yet.

I have explained that I am taking it one day at a time, and cannot promise anything more. Should we wait to start blending us at this time? Is the fact I can help them a good enough reason to get to know each other? I realize we could try to claim I am only a friend, but is that deceptive. Thank you for your opinion and any suggestions you might have.